Sometimes our thoughts are backed with so much insecurity that they create lies we believe.” -Unknown
The poem was written by me a few months back. Who knew i could be so poetic?
Anyways, I was feeling somewhat sentimental about what i passed through for a few years of my life. It felt good to write down what i felt on paper. It was hard relieving those memories and to move forward, i had to let go of the past hence the poem. Insecurity is so horrible and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. It's difficult to love yourself, you're always thinking that you're going to be judged, always wondering if you have the perfect wear!! Like how is that fair? And the funny part is that it could stem from anywhere. Know how you want to buy a dress and the shop keeper tells you "Maybe if you slimmed down a ton, it'd fit" and the next thing you know you're suddenly watching your weight and not eating or someone tells you you're ugly or you don't have a good body stucture.. Literally anything. And you start not loving you.. It hurts real bad because you're never going to be yourself again and later in the future when you look back, you realize that you're never going to get that time of your life back.
Going through what i went through? No worries, I have a few pointers to also help you get through it. (Side note: Words do hurt so be kind to everyone you meet. Every one us beautiful in theirs own way)
TIPS TO HELP OVERCOME INSECURITY
■Realization: Its easy to say but not to easy to carry out. You've got to realize that such feeling isn't healthy neither is it worth it. You might need some alone time for this. Ask yourself why you began feeling insecure and note them.
■Let go of the past: Insecurity can stem from anywhere be it a person even a thing. It's time to forgive whosoever said anything mean to you that might have made you feel so self conscious. This might look easy but its not. Digging up past memories and letting them go? Now, that takes courage and i know you have it in you.
■Reflection: (P. S. You might need a mirror for this. It's optional) Begin to look at yourself. You can write notes about the things you actually love about you. Could be your hair, your eyes, anything. Remember that these things are part of you and no one's going to take that away from you. Don't forget about your flaws as well. Remember all parts of the body need each other to function. You can't hate one and love the other. Look at these imperfect parts of you and show them love. That's why i suggest using a full standing mirror. As you point out each flaw, look at your reflection and tell it that no matter what anyone says its imperfectly perfect and that's all that matters. You deserve self love
■Post - it notes: Write positive comments such as 'you're beautiful' and stick it somewhere sightable (not a word, i know😂 but you get my drift).
■Say it out loud: Saying something out loud actually brings it to reality. When you say all these positive comments you'll begin to believe it.
■No comparing: Don't compare yourself to anyone ever. You're unique and rare and that's what makes you special.
■Believe : Start small, don't rush anything. This process takes time. Have faith that in due course, you'll be loving yourself with no stress.
I practiced the following and today I'm a lot better than i was 3 years ago. Remember the journey of a thousand miles began from a single step. Once you begin, you'll definitely make it to the end.
You're beautiful, that's rare, rare is different , different is unique and unique is different. You can do it!!!
No one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. At some point in of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. We must try to live as per our capability.” – Anil Sinha
I really hope this inspires you. I know you'll be loving yourself soon. Happy Reading❤️. Don't forget to share this to your friends, it can help anyone. Please let me know your thoughts in the comments section. Lots of love
Xoxo,
Ella